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2location: Mexico City
3description: One negative side effect of writing
4date: 2022-12-18
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7# Problem with writing
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9Writing is cool for many different reasons. However, I found that it has one negative side effect for me.
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11Let me explain.
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13Usually writing is the last step of the following process:
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15Observe something - can be outside world or can be my feelings
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17Take time to think about it and reflect. Maybe even process things intellectually or emotionally.
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19Once everything is clear in my mind I’m ready to write it down.
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21After I write stuff I usually don’t think about the topic anymore. I *release *it, because it does’t interest me anymore.
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23And here is the issue. When I talk to people the best conversations are usually about personal experiences: personal stories, observations, reflections and thoughts. I like telling my stories and I like listening to the stories from other people.
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25However, once I’ve told the story few times I lose interest in it. I don’t like retelling the same story multiple times even to different group of people. 2-3 times is usually enough. After that the story becomes boring. It’s like me watching the same film. It doesn’t have the same emotional intensity. On top of that, if I tell the same story I gain this awareness of me telling the story. So I don’t relive it anymore in the purest sense. I become an observer where I can see myself saying things and seeing reactions from people. It becomes like a standup act. And I don’t like that one bit. I know some people love this, they love perfecting the form - improve the story itself. But it doesn’t interest me. Form is always secondary to me. I love the rawness of moments, of the emotions. I like the moments when the idea or thought or emotion are born. They don’t need to be perfected. “Aliveness” is what I’m looking for.
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27So that happens with live conversations. But writing has the same problem with me. Once I wrote about the topic I don’t really want to discuss it anymore. There is nothing I can add to it.
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29It’s done and dusted for me.
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31Which is a bit sad. I wonder if this will ever change.
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33But the good news is that life is fascinating. With every year I have more stories and more reflections and more observations. I have more things to share with people and I have more things that I need to learn from others.
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35[#writing](/tags/writing) [#reflection](/tags/reflection)